Comments on: Dear Clusterflock

By: You’re cute : clusterflock

You’re cute : clusterflock — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:29:54 +0000

[...] Or, alternatively, I love you. [...]

By: Daryl Scroggins

Daryl Scroggins — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:11:14 +0000

I don’t say it if I don’t mean it, and I really don’t like the feeling I get when saying it comes very close to the line of having to question it. I particularly dislike its use in telephone conversations. Sometimes when extended family members use it, I get the sense that it means: “In case I die or you die before we meet again, let’s get this squared away now.” (cringe)

By: Danny

Danny — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:52:13 +0000

I may not always say it, but I certainly experience it – experience it deeply. Now, for example, would be one of those times.

By: Rick Neece

Rick Neece — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:23:31 +0000

India, the “I love you, too.” may well be the least sincere I-love-you out there. At its best, it is ceremonial language. (Sometimes needed and necessary.) At its worst, a curse.

By: India

India — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:19:10 +0000

I tend not to say it when someone has just said those words to me, because I don't want that person to think I'm just saying it as a response. But that policy then requires me to remember/be moved to say, "I love you" on my own, unprompted. Fortunately, there are a lot of ways to mean it.

By: Kathy Hilen-Smith

Kathy Hilen-Smith — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 01:58:02 +0000

Thank you Rick. You said it perfectly.

By: From the comments : clusterflock

From the comments : clusterflock — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 01:24:03 +0000

[...] Rick Neece: … [...]

By: Dave Vogt

Dave Vogt — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:20:26 +0000

Ricky Ricky Ricky…

The truth of your statement puts me in a pickle.

By: Rick Neece

Rick Neece — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:13:02 +0000

I'm a bit with Andrew, here. Though he doesn't, I'll admit I say "I love you" all the time, with lots of different meanings when I say it. (I never use it ironically. When I use the phrase in earnest it is most often nearly unvoiced, whispered, in the ear of the beloved.) I harken back to something I heard that resonates with me. When we love, we are called to perform in that expression. I can say "I love you" as many times as I like and have it mean as many different meanings as the number of times I say it. But when I am, willingly and often without forethought, moved to move on another's behalf, that's when I know it's real.

By: Dave Vogt

Dave Vogt — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 23:10:03 +0000

The difference for me is “I.” “Love you” means something completely different from “I love you” in my mind. I’ve been known to end phone conversations with friends and family by saying “okloveyoubye,” but saying “I love you” is much harder.

Even when I fear it may be true.